Breaking up is one of the miserable stages of one life, even if you’re the one initiating the breakup it may wound you so deeply that makes you start questioning your self-worth and diminish your faith in love. However, there are numerous ways by which you can overcome these terrible feelings and make your mood better.
Acknowledge the 5 stages of grief
First and foremost, to get over this terrible feeling, you need to get through the 5 stages of grief. This method was introduced by a Swiss-American psychiatrist named Elizabeth Kübler-Ross in her book “Death and Dying”, these five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
Firstly, during the denial stage, we don’t let our minds accept what just happened and we hope for things to get right again. This false hope doesn’t allow us to adjust to our new reality.
After the phase of denial, you go through anger, where you resent your partner for making you feel that way, you might blame them for the pain you’re experiencing.
Thirdly, the stage of bargaining, this stage is a bit similar to denial here you find ways to fix things and restore the relationship in every possible way.
Next, you go through the phase of depression, where you eventually realize that the situation is not going to change, at this stage, you feel at your lowest and not able to function normally.
Lastly, the final stage is acceptance, where you come to peace with the terms with what happened was meant to happen and was in the best interest.
After passing these 5 stages of grief and finally accepting how you feel, there are various other ways to make you feel better.
Pour your emotions out
Talk to a trusted friend, or journal your feelings, either way, you need to share how you feel. Keeping it to yourself will only do more damage, hence sharing what you feel will ease your burden and make you feel much better.
Distract yourself
In order for you to not think about them 24/7, you need to find ways to keep yourself busy. Hang out with your friends, spend some quality time with your family, take a mini-vacation if possible. Indulge in activities that’ll help elevate your mood, whether it be reading a book, watching movies, painting, joining a dance class, or simply going for a walk. All these little techniques will help you take off your mind from your partner.
Let it go
I know that this is easier to be said than done, but it’s crucially important to realize that whatever happened was in your best interest. Holding on back will do nothing but harm you, so remove all the things that remind you of them, whether it’s pictures of you two together or things they gave you. This will help you not to relapse into the same cycle and assist you in moving on.
So instead of losing yourself trying to hold on to someone, it’s better to gather yourself together, pick yourself up, become the strongest version you have ever been and move on gracefully.
